Be The Right One

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Be The Right One

If you stop any Christian man or woman at church who is still single and ask him if he is looking for “the right one” you will probably get some answers somewhere along the following lines:

“I have been praying for God to reveal His will to me regarding that.”

“I am praying for the right person to come along.”

“I have had my eye on (fill in name of his/her crush).  I’m just waiting for God to show me a sign.”

“Not yet, I’m still busy with other stuff.  But if God shows me the right gal/guy, who am I to refuse?”

With the exception of those who are busy with studies or with work, most single people at church are hoping to meet someone they might marry someday. The sad fact is that some of them who are actively seeking to find their lifetime partner may not be ready for a long-term relationship.

If you are single and you are enthusiastically looking or waiting for your future husband or wife, have you ever answered this question: Would you marry you?

It’s time for a little self-examination.

You know yourself.  You know your strength and weaknesses.  You know your good qualities and you also know your least desirable traits. Now ask yourself, would you consider yourself as someone who is ready to marry and start a family with?

Regardless of whether your answer is yes or no, remember the following points:

You do not have to be perfect to be eligible for marriage. Nobody is perfect.  After all, we are all sinners saved by Christ. “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Rom. 3:23)

  1. You must continue to grow in your faith maturing mentally, emotionally, and most of all, spiritually. “Brothers, do not be children in your thinking. Be infants in evil, but in your thinking be mature.” (1 Cor. 14:20)
  2. Surround yourself with Godly people. Have fellowship with them and learn from them. “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” (Prov. 13:20)
  3. God knows your needs and desires, but the focus must be on God. When you focus on God and on striving to do his will, then he will give you what you need and yearn for. “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” (Matt. 6:33)

In the end, when you are not so self-pre-occupied with trying to choose the right mate, as you draw closer to God, you will start to notice Godly people around you, who are also drawing near to God. You will see people who are like-minded and like-hearted.  It is therefore quite possible, that from among these beloved saints of God, you will get to meet the right person who loves God above all and who will love you and be faithful to you.

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)